We are officially at our 2-months mark before the wedding and we are feeling the crunch of this 60 days countdown. It's a little ironic because I've talked to my friends at their 2-months mark and seen how busy they were with all their wedding plans, and often wondered how they felt. Now we have arrived and I know exactly how they felt - excited, nervous, alittle scared, alot stressed; and the combination of "the wedding is coming up so soon" and "i can't wait for it to be all over".
I've shared with you some of the lessons I've learned since being engaged about compromise and the value of friends. Now I think I'm learning about letting go and maintaining the peace.
I don't know what is about planning a wedding that can make people (ahem-parents) go crazy, or fight for the spotlight, or lose focus of why this event is even being planned in the first place. The way that some people act, you'd think that THEY are getting married instead of Robert and I. And of course, everyone has an opinion about everything because that's how they did it before (or wished they had).
This all use to bother me before, and sometimes still does when suggestions are taken too far. But I think I'm learning to choose my battles and let go of what's really not that important as long as it keeps the peace.
Someone once told me to look at it from a 5 years perspective. For example, will I really care what flavor cake I had at my wedding 5 years from now? Probably not (although I think my fiance might!). But will I care if certain guests were not invited to partake in the celebration? Yeah, I think we would.
So we try to keep the whole wedding in perspective and also spend as much time planning for the days after. It is 60 days before the wedding, but in perspective, our marriage will be for a whole lifetime.
