Today I found another white hair. Except this white hair did not come from the top of my head, but from my eyebrow! Yes, I found a white eyebrow hair. Am I stressing that much?
So instead of giving in to my worries, I decided to Give Thanks instead.
And I am thankful for M who is trying so hard to make our wedding beautiful the way we want. I'm thankful for my mom trying to be helpful (even if I have to bite my tongue from time to time). I'm thankful for my friend Jasmine who can relate to the wedding stresses. I'm grateful for my moh who remains calm and gracious even as I rant and rave around the lake. I'm thankful for F who offered to get a truck-load of branches if we so wanted (and want we shall). And I'm thankful for all the friends who have offered a helping hand, a referral, a sympathetic ear, and their prayers.
I realize this is another lesson in marriage: Give Thanks. Be grateful for what you have and be humble enough to get by with a little help from your friends.
With that said, the thing I'm most thankful for is that I am getting married to a wonderful man who reminds me everyday to not worry.
Friday, July 30, 2010
Tuesday, July 27, 2010
Photographer search
Susanna and I are searching for a photographer, which sounds simple but in reality is much harder. A photographer is someone who will work with you the whole event and stick with you like the bridal party. We interviewed a few photographers who were very different in personality but similar in image styles. Susanna and I are looking for a photographer who can capture the moment with a more photojournalism style, like if our wedding was photographed by a news reporter instead of someone with an art degree.
One of my hobbies is photography and for a while I've been reading photography forums about wedding photographers. I understand what makes a good photograph but it's much harder to really choose a photographer. You don't just look at the quality of the images but the amount of time the person takes to respond to questions, how they are in person for the first interview, also how well they work with the couple. It's the opposite of what I have learned in photography all these years, instead of a technical and artistic view point of photographer, you look at the personal side of it.
We have not settled on a photographer but the time is getting close and we have a possible winner soon.
Robert
One of my hobbies is photography and for a while I've been reading photography forums about wedding photographers. I understand what makes a good photograph but it's much harder to really choose a photographer. You don't just look at the quality of the images but the amount of time the person takes to respond to questions, how they are in person for the first interview, also how well they work with the couple. It's the opposite of what I have learned in photography all these years, instead of a technical and artistic view point of photographer, you look at the personal side of it.
We have not settled on a photographer but the time is getting close and we have a possible winner soon.
Robert
Wednesday, July 21, 2010
First Lesson in Marriage
Alot of married couples have told me that marriage is all about compromise. Robert and I are having our first lesson about compromise already during our engagement - compromise about the time of the wedding, reception site, decorations, even our guest list. But as Robert so wisely put it yesterday - without the compromises, we wouldn't have a place to get married in. And I wouldn't have the reality checks about the life Robert and I will share AFTER the wedding day.
Yesterday someone asked me what I wanted my guests to see at the wedding. I admit I was stumped at first, not knowing how to answer that because I honestly hadn't thought about the wedding that way. I had been much more pre-occupied about how to decorate the church and what the guests would think about the color combo we picked out. So when posed with this question, I really thought about it beyond the colors and decorations. I realized I wanted my guests to see how thankful I am (we are) that God brought us together, because we all know how hard it is to find that true and lasting love.
So what do I want my guests to see? I want them to see how truly lucky and blessed Robert and I are to have found and chosen each other. I want them to see M and mr M singing our song. I want them to see my mom and my future mom-in-law shed tears of joy. I want them to see us laughing and hugging and kissing surrounded by our closest friends and family who are all doing the same. THIS is how I want my wedding to be decorated with God's blessings, with laughter, and with enduring love.
The rest are minute details that no one but some of my very detail-oriented friends will remember. In fact, I am one of those wedding guests who loses the invitation before the wedding day and forgets to take the program home.
I'm bravely putting this post out there into cyberspace as a reminder to myself (which I may need to read many many times) before the day I become Mrs. Small Fry.
Thank you, Robby, for reminding me daily of what's important.
Yesterday someone asked me what I wanted my guests to see at the wedding. I admit I was stumped at first, not knowing how to answer that because I honestly hadn't thought about the wedding that way. I had been much more pre-occupied about how to decorate the church and what the guests would think about the color combo we picked out. So when posed with this question, I really thought about it beyond the colors and decorations. I realized I wanted my guests to see how thankful I am (we are) that God brought us together, because we all know how hard it is to find that true and lasting love.
So what do I want my guests to see? I want them to see how truly lucky and blessed Robert and I are to have found and chosen each other. I want them to see M and mr M singing our song. I want them to see my mom and my future mom-in-law shed tears of joy. I want them to see us laughing and hugging and kissing surrounded by our closest friends and family who are all doing the same. THIS is how I want my wedding to be decorated with God's blessings, with laughter, and with enduring love.
The rest are minute details that no one but some of my very detail-oriented friends will remember. In fact, I am one of those wedding guests who loses the invitation before the wedding day and forgets to take the program home.
I'm bravely putting this post out there into cyberspace as a reminder to myself (which I may need to read many many times) before the day I become Mrs. Small Fry.
Thank you, Robby, for reminding me daily of what's important.
Thursday, July 1, 2010
5 Months and counting...
My first post as the Bride - yay!
Wedding planning is coming along. Like Robert posted, we have a church and a reception. And I already have THE dress! It was the first dress I tried on at the first bridal store I went to. It had a little bit of everything I was looking for - beading, lace, straps, sparklies- and still managed to look elegant (with the bonus of making me look tall, which is no easy feat). Who said dress shopping was hard? ;)
Throughout this new process of planning a wedding and a new life for Robert and I, we have realized 3 things:
1. The bride is traditional in an unconventional way, and we really just want to have a fun intimate party
2. The wedding industry is one big rip-off capitalizing on your happy day
3. (and most important) It is so easy to get caught up in the wedding that you lose the focus of why you're having that wedding
As I like to quote from an advice column in a bridal magazine, Robert and I are getting MARRIED, not "Wedding-ed". If you've talked to me recently, you've already heard me on my pre-nuptial soapbox. I think I keep pushing that point because I need to remind myself that even if this world falls away, the most important thing is that Robert and I get married. And I do plan on marrying Robert on Dec 3rd - rain or shine, wedding or no wedding, no matter what happens.
And the other advice I got from that same column, ELOPE! Too late for that... I guess, sometimes advice is to be given, not taken.
Wedding planning is coming along. Like Robert posted, we have a church and a reception. And I already have THE dress! It was the first dress I tried on at the first bridal store I went to. It had a little bit of everything I was looking for - beading, lace, straps, sparklies- and still managed to look elegant (with the bonus of making me look tall, which is no easy feat). Who said dress shopping was hard? ;)
Throughout this new process of planning a wedding and a new life for Robert and I, we have realized 3 things:
1. The bride is traditional in an unconventional way, and we really just want to have a fun intimate party
2. The wedding industry is one big rip-off capitalizing on your happy day
3. (and most important) It is so easy to get caught up in the wedding that you lose the focus of why you're having that wedding
As I like to quote from an advice column in a bridal magazine, Robert and I are getting MARRIED, not "Wedding-ed". If you've talked to me recently, you've already heard me on my pre-nuptial soapbox. I think I keep pushing that point because I need to remind myself that even if this world falls away, the most important thing is that Robert and I get married. And I do plan on marrying Robert on Dec 3rd - rain or shine, wedding or no wedding, no matter what happens.
And the other advice I got from that same column, ELOPE! Too late for that... I guess, sometimes advice is to be given, not taken.
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